A Mother's Journey Blog


Are All ADD/ADHD left handed?

Q: My husband and I have been told that our son needs to be tested for ADD since the first grade. We had him tested at Cherokee Health Systems a year ago. They told us that he had some signs of ADD. Well, of course that was not good enough for the school. So, we had the school test him. The only thing that they could tell us was to put him on medicine as soon as possible. OF COURSE. You can’t talk to anyone without them saying have him tested, put him on medicine. Is that the only answer?? I don’t feel that that is the only answer. You know, I also get tired of people telling me that since he is left handed he definaltly has ADD. Is that always true??? All I know is I am TRULY CONFUSED. I am afraid my son is going to fail in life and school if I don’t get some help. One last thing-  Can a school force you to have your child tested or take medicine??

Sonya

  A: 1. Left-handed kids usually are ADD/ADHD, is a total myth! I can explain why people speculate this myth. My son Charlie is left-handed, which means he operates primarily from the right hemisphere of his brain because it controls the left side of his body and the left hemisphere of the brain controls the right side of the body. I look at this as a bonus because Right brain thinkers are creative and artistic and Left brain thinkers are analytical. Because left-handed people are primarily using the right brain’s creativeness, it may appear that they are not focusing when in fact they are dreaming and imagining great things. Left- handed children may also appear to be a little clumsy or constantly having to stop and re-evaluate situations like sports, hand writing, eating at the table, etc. because they live in a right handed environment so it takes a little longer for them to figure things out. In fact, there are many children/adults that are right brained and right handed because they were not encouraged or taught to use the left hand. Charlie writes both left-handed and right-handed. He bats both ways in baseball. I’m a Left brain thinker, I’m right handed, and I have ADD. My husband is a Right brain thinker; he is right handed, and has ADD. Your environment has a lot to do with you physical attributes, but that does not change which side of the brain you use; although it can be suppressed, for instance when we are told to stop day dreaming. Most of our great achievers, inventors, and leaders never came close to finishing school. Don’t get me wrong, school is vitally important, but I do disagree with the way many children are suppressed from their true abilities. We all operate from both sides of the brain; it’s more about an individual being creative or analytical in their thinking. 

2. A school CANNOT force you to put your child on medication or get his/her vaccines. They can make you feel really bad but they cannot force you….EVER!! If you are feeling pressured to put your child on drugs because of your school system, you can contact your State Board of Education to prevent teachers or school administrators from continuing to do this.  

3. As far as teachers wanting your child to be tested for ADD/ADHD, that’s not such a bad thing. If anything was affecting my child’s behavior in class, I would want to know what I could to do to help with the situation. BUT, it’s important to understand what kind of test your child should have for ADD/ADHD. Along with several hours of IQ and Torrance tests for creativity. A child must exhibit ADD/ADHD behavior in two or more situations (school, home, socially, or work) to be diagnosed with this disorder. The presence of onset behavior problems or symptoms must be before the age of 7.

AND, if your child is diagnosed with ADD/ADHD, your next step is to have more tests such as neurotransmitters, food allergies, heavy metals, or Candida, etc… Why put a child on medication that has serious side effects when you can test for the exact neurotransmitter they are deficient in and then give them a natural supplement that contains those neurotransmitters such as Neu-becalm, Biometics Bio Alert, or Biometics Get-Go-N? I’m not 100% against medication or antibiotics, but I think they should always be used as a last resort. What if your child had a food allergy which was the result of his lack of concentration in class? Wouldn’t you rather pull this food from his diet then automatically put him on a Schedule II drugs that is highly addictive and has serious long term side effects??? I have had parents tell me by adding a high quality supplementations, omegas, and doing a heavy metal cleanse for their child, they saw long lasting life changing results!!! Going down the holistic path is a win-win situation. If you explain to your child’s teachers what you are doing they will work with you and let you know when they see a difference in your child. Worst case scenario is you are left with one healthy kid. Medication strips the body of nutrients and good bacteria in the gut. So even if a child is left with no other alternative but medication it is still important to have vitamins, omega, and probiotic supplements.

 P.S When I got the confidence to tell teachers, “I am taking my son off medication! This is what I’m going to do blah, blah, blah…, and will you please help me observe my child?” Every teacher was willing to participate. But looking back over the years when I was feeling pressured to put Charlie on ADD/ADHD medication; I can see how unsure I was back then. Therefore teachers were telling me what to do. But when I made a firm decision of what I was going to do and had gained confidence because of my researched in natural remedies, harmful effects from ADD/ADHD medications, using proper nutrition, blah, blah, blah…. No teacher ever tried to pressure me again!

Enthusiastically yours,

Shirley Highers

www.addnaturalremedy.com

When the grass looks greener on the other side of the fence, it may be that they are taking better care of it.

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Dealing with Charlie’s ADHD Attitude

Ya know, being a parent of a child with ADD/ADHD can be so FRICKING frustrating!! Charlie for as long as I can recall has always had this, “I don’t care about the consequence attitude.” This makes it very hard to discipline him and I usually find myself resorting to screaming at the top of my lungs. “Why did you do this Charlie? Why don’t you think before you speak Charlie? Did you ever stop to ask yourself is this a good idea Charlie? This is what I expect from you Charlie! Why are you always making poor decisions Charlie? How could you do something so hurtful Charlie? Why do you like constantly getting in trouble Charlie? You knew it was wrong and you still did it, Why Charlie??” This is always Charlie’s answer to me, “I dunno.” And now that he’s gotten older and hit puberty, not only do I have to still deal with his poor decisions but now I get these responses, “No body else has chores. Nobody else has to check in. Your ruining my life. It’s not fair,” And of course all his responses are served with high drama, eye rolling, huffing and puffing, slamming doors, and the evil eye stare down. I’ve had a parent tell me that I should put him back on his ADD/ADHD medication because that what she did with her son when he was getting out of hand. I said, “Why? His focus is great now because of the vitamins, omegas, and neurotransmitter supplements. Why would I put him on medication to make my life easier?” I would rather put up with his drama any day then to have him drift through life missing out on his childhood. Adding omegas to his vitamin regimen has improved his decision making process and maturity but omega supplements are not going to raise a child for you. And all ADD/ADHD medication does is turn Charlie into a zombie.

I have always suspected that both me and my husband had ADD/ADHD growing up. This explains both of our childhood and our lack of patience. Ya know, I had been so focus on balancing Charlie’s brain and body chemistry that I forgot something very important. I forgot to also focus on the emotional aspect of dealing with ADD/ADHD. So I began investing in myself. I purchase self-help books, DVDs, even regularly TiVo Dr.Phil’s shows. But it wasn’t until I heard Bob Proctor speak live in a seminar that I had that “Aw Ha” moment. His seminar is based on harmonic balance, having the income you have always desired, having a great relationship with your husband, kids, or friends, and being aligned spiritually and physically. Never once did I think that hearing Bob speak that he would make me aware of how my husband and I have contributed to Charlie’s problems and bad attitude in the past. I got so many gold nuggets from this seminar but I’d have to say the most important point I walked away is, To seek the change in your child’s attitude, you must first become that change. You have got to go to this website: www.thesecretpowerofthemind.com If Bob Proctor is coming to your town or a city near you, I highly recommend that you go to his seminar!!!!! If you notice in my e-book and all over my website, I like getting down to the very core of any problem. Treating symptoms are like sticking band aids on your problems. Until you can go directly to the core of your problem will you be able to fix it. Well, Bob Proctor goes to the core of your subconscious conditioning and helps you start from there. The way he explains your bad habits (paradigms) and the conditioning of your mind, will put everything into perspective. This information is soo powerful that you will be forever changed!!!!

It has made all the difference with Charlie’s attitude. Charlie started High School two weeks ago and his preparation, excitement, and organization are mind blowing. I’m trying not to get too excited but I just pray that this will continue for the rest of his life.We still have those “bad days” but for the first time, both of our attitudes are changing toward one another. I see all the mistakes I have made in the past and now chalk them up to good experiences. I take one day at a time, I do the very best I can everyday, and I leave the rest up to God!

Enthusiastically yours,

Shirley Highers

www.addnaturalremedy.com

When the grass looks greener on the other side of the fence, it may be that they are taking better care of it.