A Mother's Journey Blog

Why Is ADD More Common With Girls?

Q: Why are more boys diagnosis with ADHD than girls? I’ve heard it’s because girls can control it better than boys since they are more disruptive.


A: In the book “The Brain Wellness Plan” by Dr.Jay Lombard (Board Certified Neurologist) and Carl Germano, RD, CNS, LDN says that norepinephrine is responsible for coaching the brain into paying attention. Inadequate levels of this neurotransmitters will cause inattentiveness in both ADD/ADHD. But the hyperactivity in ADHD is a result of inappropriate levels of dopamine. Girls are more likely to have ADD because their estrogen inhibits or prevents the reception of dopamine by neurons. 

Pretty interesting, huh? And let’s not forget girl’s brain mature faster than boys too. A few years ago I was in the book store taking notes in the health selection. I don’t just gravitate to ADD/ADHD books when I’m doing research. I’ll also skim through books about the brain, pH, digestion, Candida, omegas, cleanses/fasting, or eating for your blood type. Good thing because I have often wondered the answer to that question. I couldn’t find a scientific answer on the internet or in other ADD/ADHD books. I got pretty much the same info you came across.

Enthusiastically yours,

Shirley Highers


When the grass looks greener on the other side of the fence, it may be that they are taking better care of it.

Stevia Is Best Substitute for Refined Sugar & HFCS

Parents tell me one of the hardest part of changing their child’s diet is pulling the bad sugar from their diet since it is virtually in everything. This is completely understandable since sugar is highly additive. Just a day off of sugar will prompt mood swings, headaches, and foggy thinking. And artificial sweeteners like Aspartame and Sucralose are worse! Neither are a good substitute for bad sugars. This is really bad stuff especially since ADD/ADHD do not detox well. Sugar was the bane of Charlie’s health and mood swings. The first thing we did was immediately start Charlie on Grapefruit seed extract and a probiotic. At first 5 drops GSE once a day with probiotic before bed. Then we worked up to GSE 15 drops 2-3 times a day for 2 weeks and 2 probiotics a day. We never took probiotic with GSE.Next we ordered Stevia extract both liquid and powder form. This stuff is like magic! Charlie loved it and it made this transition effortless. He didn’t turn into a sugar junkie looking for his next snicker bar fix. For instance, instead of purchasing pre-packaged commercial flavored oatmeal that you get at the grocery store, here’s a healthy organic alternative found in the health selection or at Whole food Grocery Stores:

Cinnamon Oatmeal

Organic oatmeal flakes that either comes in a bag or from a dispenser that you empty into your plastic bad

Organic ground cinnamon (or the flavor you desire)

Organic nuts of your choice (almonds, soy, pecans, walnuts)

Unsweetened soy or rice milk (always heat milk on stove versus microwave- it kills everything including the nutrients)

*Sprinkle stevia powder as desired to make it sweet. (remember you don’t need much!)

*1tbsp Smart Butter

*Sometimes on special occasions we even sprinkle Unsweetened, or semi sweetened Carob Vegan Chocolate chips.

Stevia is the world’s only all herbal natural sweetener with zero calories, zero carbohydrates, zero gylcemic index, and sucralose/aspartame free. It comes from a shrub that is native to Paraguay called stevia rebaundiana. It tastes a little like licorice and is sweeter than sucrose. There are no side effects or dangers associated with Stevia. In the United States, our government for some unknown reason says Stevia is not considered a sweetener, so it’s not included on any product label as a sweetener. But in the rest of the world, Stevia is known as the best natural sweetener on the market today.

When selecting Stevia always go with raw rather than bleached and select Stevia extract versus Stevia. It doesn’t take much to sweeten your drinks, smoothie, desserts, etc… Remember when it comes to this sweetener, LESS IS ALWAYS BETTER. Too much will leave your drinks tasting bitter and gross. Stevia can be put in everything. The possibilities are endless!!! You can even cook with it. Couple of things to keep in mind; NEVER cook over 400 F and for every 1 cup substitute 1 tsp stevia extract. Anytime you replace a recipe with stevia there should be 1/3 cup of liquid or bulk added back to the recipe (egg whites, water, yogurt, fruit puree, etc).

Raw Powdered stevia extract: www.steviaextractintheraw.com

Organic Liquid stevia extract: www.nowfoods.com  

Enthusiastically yours,

Shirley Highers


When the grass looks greener on the other side of the fence, it may be that they are taking better care of it.


Do Clay Baths Make Children Sick?

Q: I was considering ordering the clay bath, but was told by my doctor not to because too many children get sick from this choice of natural remedy. What are your thoughts?


A: Clay baths are highly recommend by both Naturopath and Holistic practitioner. To be honest when it comes to nutrition I prefer their opinion versus the opinions of a pediatrician, family practitioner, or psychiatrist. Remember that physicians only have 1 semester of nutrition during their years of school to become a doctor. Personally I LOVE clay baths and I highly recommend them especially since ADD/ADHD do not detoxify well and normally test positive for heavy metals. When I first research heavy metal cleanses, I realized that this cleanse could take more than a year to do and was very very very expense! So I started researching natural ways to detox. I found that zeolite and bentonite clay were both negative ions. This means that the negative ions will draw out the positive ions (toxins) like a magnet and they will lock together in a bear hug. Regular Chelation therapy which are recommended by physicians, doesn’t have a strong bond with heavy metals. So they are more likely to hold hand when they come together. And if they should bump into other things in the body or are draw out too quickly, they are more likely to let go of each other’s grip resulting in an extremely dangerous situation. This is why Chelation therapy requires a long period of time to accomplish. I did zeolite orally and bentonite clay externally for Charlie’s detox. Most individuals do not see results until 6 months or longer with chelation therapy. We however had results within 3-4 weeks.

I did do my research and I love the company I recommended on my website for clay baths. It’s an easy site to navigate and very educational too. Their clay is 100% pure, no fillers, free of mold or yeast, and is USP purified (So keep all of this in mind before purchasing clay baths at health store or on-line.) I also love how this site offers you a heavy metal test, which is only an additional $15 and you can get immediate results at home. Although I have to admit I feel that a hair analysis test for heavy metals which is sent off to a lab is my first choice because it’s more accurate. But it can be pricey and will take weeks before you get your results.

Some tips that will help; if you or your child is on medication it is recommended that you do not give medication prior to bath. Not only does the clay baths draw out heavy metals but street drugs, prescription drugs, preservatives, insectides, etc…This is probably why your doctor said to stay away from clay baths. If a child or an adult are taking more than one prescription drug or have chronic health problems with a history of long term drug use, this will stimulate a healing crisis during their bath. Which means too many toxins are pulled out into the bloodstream causing an individual to have nausea, flu-like symptoms, and lethargy. In some cases even vomiting. So for these individuals start with a foot clay bath first for the first week or longer. And follow the directions for clay baths to the “T.” I don’t care if you think the water is warm enough, go get your thermometer and get the water to the exact temp it recommends and do not exceed the time recommended in bath either. If you do all of this you will have a positive experience. This site even offers a drink filled with electrolytes, minerals, and micronutrients that you should drink after your clay bath to replenish what you may have lost during your bath. The individuals who get sick, are the ones who do not follow the directions.

FYI: Powerade or Gatorades do replenish electrolytes but are sweetened with High Fructose Corn Syrup. Try to find another alterative if your not going to order the drink from their website. Any mult-vitamin, mineral, and electrolyte drink will do. Charlie and I first did their electrolyte drink but now we both just take 1 tbsp of Bio Fuel. We also continue to take clay baths. I say probably every 2-3 mon we will take a clay bath once a week for a month for maintenance. And everything Charlie does, I do with him. He’s never tried a natural remedy without me or my husband doing it along with him. This allows us to help explain to him the changes that his body is going through.

Enthusiastically yours,

Shirley Highers


When the grass looks greener on the other side of the fence, it may be that they are taking better care of it.


High Fructose Corn Syrup Horrible For ADD/ADHD

Have you seen the commercial where the couple are talking about HFCS? The boyfriend is concerned about eating his girlfriend’s popisicle because it’s got HFCS in it. His girlfriend says, “What? That it’s natural and made from corn? And that in moderation, it’s perfectly fine.” I guess the Corn Refiners Association has a new PR agent. I was totally shocked with disbelief when I first saw this commercial. Un fricking believeable!! How totally misleading is this commerical??? Well first of all, HFCS is in EVERYTHING!!!!!!!!!! Go to your kitchen cabinets right now and start reading the back of the labels. If you threw everything out that contained HFCS, you wouldn’t have anything left to eat. And for the items that you do have left, they are either artificial sweeten or have MSG which isn’t any better. HFCS is in sodas, bread, soups (chicken noodle, cream of mushroom, vegtable soup, etc), ketchup, beer, health bars, cereals, popsicles, yogurts, sauces (such as Worcester, spaghetti sauce, etc), puddings, maple syrups, pop tarts, etc… Basically anything that comes in wrapper, is pretty much sweetened with HFCS. Most of these products are marketed to our children in vending machines at our schools.

Second, simple sugars suppress your immune system, causes hormonal imbalance, causes chromium deficiency, interferes with absorption for calcium, magnesium, and B vitamins. If you read my e-book, blogs, or website you are already awaere that ADD/ADHD are highly deficient in their minerals and B vitamins. I could keep going and going with the amount of damage sugar can cause to one’s body. And HFCS is even worse than sugar! Fructose from corn is a natural sugar derived from corn syrup. BUT High Fructose Corn Syrup goes through many more chemical processes (extractions, drying, etc..) than simple fructose. NOTE: It’s in the extra chemical processes that make HFCS so lethal.

And third, let me briefly cover 7 important factors you need to know about HFCS especially if you or your child have ADD/ADHD:

1. Causes obesity because the body doesn’t  process HFCS like it does sugar causing you to crave more food.

2. In the liver, it creates larger amounts of triglycerides, which increases the risk of heart disease.

3. Induces insulin resistance. Carbohydrates cause your body to produce insulin. But HFCS is different from carbs because it doesn’t stimulate insulin production. So instead of burning the calories for energy, your body ends up storing them as fat right from the get go. Without insulin, your appetite has no shut-off mechanism causing you to over eat.

4. Increases a dangerous type of fat in the blood and causes high blood pressure.

5. HFCS is a MAJOR factor in negative behavioral reactions in both children and adults today. It can result in hyperactivity, lack of focus, and fatigue. Just by decreasing HFCS will increase good behavior.

6. When coming off ADD/ADHD medication, it’s extremely important that you limit your sugar intake especially HFCS. This will help reduce blood sugar spikes. Phase 2 and Chromium help with decreasing sugar cravings and balancing blood level. I know for boys it’s not a big deal if they are eating like a horse once off ADD/ADHD medication. However for girls eating uncontrollably is not a bonus.

7. And worst of all, most of commercial HFCS are contamination with mercury when it goes through the process of extraction. FYI, heavy metal toxicity already is a common problem with ADD/ADHD. Products that were tested and contained mercury contaminated HFCS are: Quaker, Hunt’s, Manwich, Hershey’s, Smuckers, Kraft, Nutri-Grain, and Yoplait. Check it out: http://healthobservatory.org/library.cfm?refid=105026

So do you still think HFCS is perfectly safe?? I’ll be honest here and admit that I will sometimes marinate with teriyaki sauce plus we still go out to eat as a family once every 2 weeks. It’s very difficult trying to find products without HFCS but it can be done with a little bit of labor. I feel with us eating 85% organic, high quality supplements, and doing regular cleanses (clay baths, etc.), we do have the upper hand here so a little HFCS here and there is not a burden on Charlie’s body. But if I was first starting out my journey for a natural solution, absolutely NO HFCS! You can do mild moderation of HFCS once the brain and body chemistry is back in harmony. Just keep in mind, HFCS is very additive.

Enthusiastically yours,

Shirley Highers


When the grass looks greener on the other side of the fence, it may be that they are taking better care of it.