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Personal Development Programs For ADD/ADHD

When I think about being a parent of a child with ADD/ADHD, the first emotion that comes to my mind is frustration. I would definitely say 5th & 6th grade were our roughest years….and that’s with Charlie on ADHD medication. Let’s see….hmm, from the time Charlie got up in the morning we were constantly yelling, “Hurry up and eat your breakfast!, Why aren’t you ready yet?, Why haven’t you changed out of your pajamas yet?, etc.” When Charlie got to school, he was picked on by other kids in his grade that were all once his childhood best friends because he was always humming during his classes. During PE and lunch, kids called him gay because while his classmates were all interested in girls anatomical parts, Charlie had no interest because of his lack of maturity. In fact if you were to give Charlie a toy army truck he would still play with it. He was always the last to turn in his class work or his tests. Sometimes he wouldn’t even finish his test because he didn’t want other kids to make fun of him for taking too long on every test in each class. After Charlie got home from school, we were always screaming over issues such as, “You have an English test tomorrow and you didn’t bring home your book!, I got e-mailed from your teacher that you got 0 on your homework from last night.We worked on that together, why didn’t you turn it in??” And as always Charlie’s reply was, “I forgot, I don’t know, or just a blank empty stare.” Even dinner was an exhausting task because he was never hungry because of his ADHD medication. We put Charlie in baseball since he showed an interest in this sport but even there he was constantly yelled at from his dad, from his coaches, and from other players because of continuous mistakes due to not paying attention because he was daydreaming. The point I’m trying to make is that it isn’t just hard being a parent with a child that has ADD/ADHD, it can be extremely damaging for their self esteem.

Can you imagine if there wasn’t anything you were good at in your life? Then you add the constant frustration of parents who mean well but only compound the problem. No wonder the majority of these children have the “I don’t care mentality” and the “I don’t care about the consequences attitude.” With parents it’s not so much what you say but more about how you say it. Which leads me into personal development for both the parent and the child. If you do not like the results in your life currently then you will have to become the change first. You will keeping getting the same results in your life if you keep doing what you are doing. I believe it takes 35% proper nutrition & cleanses, 15% exercise, and 50% spiritual development to really have the control over ADD/ADHD. I am absolutely adamant about the importance of proper nutrition but let’s face it, supplements are going to raise your child and help them to WANT to become successful in life.

There are two programs that I recommend for Children’s Personal Development, “Demartini Breaking Through The Myth The Learning Disability Label (1 DVD) and Dr.Demartini’s Lifeskill Toolkit for Kids (3 DVD’s)” http://drjohndemartini.stores.yahoo.net/chpede.html and “Bob Proctors The Winner’s Image.” https://www.shopbobproctor.com/c-6-bobs-best-sellers.aspx. Wouldn’t it be nice to see a different perhaps positive perspective toward your child’s ADD/ADHD. These two programs will get you on the right track. I love love love both of these programs, it’s so hard for me to choose one from the other.

Bob Proctors’ program is INCREDIBLE because it begins at the core helping you understand the power of your mind. At first when you listen to this program it seems like it’s more about “How you can be successful in life and make the money you have always desired.” But in order to do this you must go back to the way your mind was condition when you were growing up. This program’s concept is built on self-esteem and not only is this program important for your child to participate in but you as well. I promise just listening to the first CD will forever change you!!!! This program comes with a work book. I highly suggest that you do exactly what Bob says and not ignore the importance of doing the exercises in this work book. You should do the program first or together with your child.

Dr.Demartini’s Toolkit is something that you should watch once a week. He helps you understand how crucial it is that you find what your child loves to do and link this to school, work, etc… He says everyone has a genius in them…..everyone! Every one of us are really good at something. He shows you through his “Demartini Method” how to awaken this genius. This DVD will make a pivotal difference in both you and your child. Look at this DVD as your first stepping stone in understanding what most public school teachers are not designed to address.

NOTE: Some ADD/ADHD children have put their hyper focus to good use because they have already found their passion such as music, art, sports, etc. And because of this managing their ADD/ADHD doesn’t seem so exhausting but I still recommend even if your child has found what he/she loves and already excels in this area, you should still order these programs. It will only add to their personal development.

Enthusiastically yours,

Shirley Highers


When the grass looks greener on the other side of the fence, it may be that they are taking better care of it.



Are all of Biometics supplements for ADD/ADHD Micellized?

Q: ‘I want to know if all the ADHD supplements come in a liquid form?? And are all of the vitamins and supplements Micellized?


A: The program for ADD/ADHD is the AM/PM program and if money is not an issue I also recommend that you get Cell Care (contains Super Antioxidants and Co Q 10). Get-go-n and Cal/Mag come in a can and are powdered forms. Either are micelled. However Get-go-n uses 80mg of caffeine which as a vehicle to quickly shoot the B vitamins and Tyrosine into your body. Individuals usually feel it within 15-20mins. The caffeine is a very small dosage and is quickly burned off by the time it arrives at your adrenal glands. All of the other liquid supplements are micelled except Bio Alert because everything in that product is water soluble. Micelled is when you convert the fat soluble to water soluble and break it down to a thousand of its usual size. This is why these vitamins are absorb before they make it to your digestive tract. Cal/Mag uses a citrate form to increase absorption by 3.5 times versus other carbonate forms.

Biometics also uses both plant based and some synthetic vitamins to ensure product quality throughout manufacturing. Basically, when food products are processed for vitamins the quantities of nutrients vary, simply because in nature the content of vitamins in a food varies from one plant to the next. It all depends on soil, water sources, climate, etc. This all means that natural sources of vitamins can result in batches of product varying a degree that is unacceptable – the product could end up with one batch high in B-vitamins and the next batch has almost none. Therefore, synthetic is the optimal choice to ensure each batch is the same.However, it’s not accurate to say that all the vitamins in the Biometics products are synthetic. As a small example, the Vitamin C they use is USP grade Ascorbic Acid that is initially derived from vegetables sources and then partially synthesized. By denoting “folate” in their products versus “folic acid” means that they use the natural form of folic acid- folate is the type found naturally in foods, while folic acid is the synthetic type. Biometics vitamin E is the natural vitamin, and comes from soybeans (denoted by “d-alpha tocopherol” versus “dl-” on the label). The calcium they use comes from limestone or salt mines. Biometics Melatonin (Bio Nite) is synthetic not only for product quality but because it is vegetarian. Natural sources of melatonin comes from pig’ brains. 

If Biometics are the liquid supplements that you decide to go with for you or your child please contact Rae Ann Haynes. Her number is (850)650-8147 H and (850)259-4887 Cell. Her e-mail is hayneskr@cox.net I’m verrry adamant that you let Rae Ann get you started. Biometics is extremely powerful offering over 95% absorption within 15-30mins. Because of this you need to be careful when administering plus all ADD/ADHD are highly deficient in the B vitamins and minerals, which means once they work their way up to a full serving they will need mega dosages of Get-Go-N and Cal/Mag…..sometimes even Bio Alert. There is a lot of adjusting of the serving size until you find the proper amount for your body. So please please do not do this alone. Rae Ann also works with Frankie Pulley. Both know the difficulties of having a child with ADD/ADHD. Rae Ann son has ADD and is medication free. She has helped many adults and children with ADD/ADHD over the last 3 years. Frankie is her mentor and he has been helping families with ADD/ADHD for over 14 years. His son who once was on ADHD medication is now medication free. They are dynamitic together and their guidance will greatly benefit you. This is why I put them as contacts on my website. I consider them to be the best in the company when dealing with ADD/ADHD. They will both be able to answer many of your questions. Their follow up is consistent and always by phone. It’s not very often you find people who consult for free so please take advantage of their expertise.

Enthusiastically yours,

Shirley Highers


When the grass looks greener on the other side of the fence, it may be that they are taking better care of it.


Organic Chocolate Chip Pumpkin Bread For ADD/ADHD

This recipe was a HUGE hit at Charlie’s Christmas party. NOBODY could believe that this yummy tasting bread was actually good for you. Neither my husband or son are fans of anything pumpkin. But the combination of the semi chocolate chip and pumpkin is absolutely delicious! Plus is so simple and quick to whoop up in your kitchen.

3 1/3 cup of Organic Whole Grain Wheat or Organic Unbleached White Flour

3 tsp of Stevia Extract Powder

4 tsp Organic pumpkin pie spice

2 tsp Organic Bob’s Red Mill (Aluminum Free) Baking Soda

1 tsp Sea salt

1/2 tsp of Rumford (Aluminum Free) Baking Powder

4 Large Organic Eggs

1 can (15oz) Organic solid pack pumpkin

2/3 cups of Distilled Water

2/3 cup of Organic Safflower Oil

2 cups of All Natural Vegan Carob Semi Chocolate Chips (Sunsprie)

1 cup of Organic Pecans or Walnuts or Almonds

In a large bowl, combine the first six ingredients. In another bowl, combine the egss, pumpkin, water and oil; stir into dry ingredients just until mositened. Stir in  chocolate chips and nuts. Pour into two greased 9in x 5in loaf pans. Bake @ 350 and check with a toothpick after 10-15 mins and every minutes afterwards.

I used Arrowhead Mills Whole Grain Wheat Seeds which I grinded in my Vitamix. At first I was a bit nervous using the seeds b/c I wasn’t sure how heavy the loaf would be making it wheat. So my first time making this recipe I used 2 cups of Organic Unbleached White Flour and 1 1/3 of Organic Whole Grain Seeds that I grined.into fresh flour.  Both times the recipe was total success so it’s your choice.

Enthusiastically yours,

Shirley Highers


When the grass looks greener on the other side of the fence, it may be that they are taking better care of it.

How Do I get My Son Who Has ADHD To Eat Vegetables? He Hates Them!

Q: I am having a hard time trying to get my son to eat vegetables. I’ve tried cooking broccoli and topping it with cheese, but he still will not eat them. He doesn’t like to eat vegetables or salads and I’m worn out everyday trying to coax him into eating them. However, he doesn’t fight me to eat fruit if I peel and cut it up for him. Do you have any suggestions to help with my situation? I understand how important it is for ADHD to eat organic vegetables but he simply won’t eat them.


A: I’m so excited to get this question! For Christmas I got a Vitamix (Blender/food processor) and Excalibur (Dehydrator). I’m not really a fan of juicers because I believe it’s equally important to not only drink the juice you extract from the juicer but you should eat the pulp(skin) as well. That can be kinda of gross to eat  especially for kids if ya know what I mean. The pulp contains all the fiber and since ADD/ADHD children are too young for colon cleanses, it’s vital that they get the proper amount of fiber in their diet each day. Remember ADD/ADHD DO NOT detoxify well so it’s important that they get fiber each day to help them have regular bowel movement (1-3 times a day)!!!This means they need to EAT fruits and vegetables and not juice them. 

The Vitamix is the MOST wonderful durable machine of all time!!!!!!! The blades are so powerful that you can drop fruits, veggies, starches, etc…. and it will completely puree it with no chucks of food. You can make healthy soy fruit ice creams, hot soups (yes, the blades if you run them more than 4 mins will make the soup hot), bread (we now make our own flour b/c of this machine), and not to mention tons of recipes for your dehydrator such as fruit roll ups, energy bars, crackers, etc…. I have talk to customers who have had this machine for over 15 years that still use it everyday. They all rave about how durable it still is, how easy it is to use everyday, and how simple it is to clean. Children will have an easier time drinking these vegetable cocktails rather than eating all of the different types of veggies they need each day. Also keep in mind, fruit should only make up 15% of your diet each day and no more than that!! Fruit is high in sugars. Even though it’s a good sugar (time released) ADD/ADHD already have problems with improper digestion due to food allergies and are highly mineral deficit (magnesium/calcium) causing an overgrowth of yeast. Sugar feeds disease, yeast, fungi, and mold. Your diet must have 60% of veggies each day. You also want color as well, such as bell peppers, onions, spinach, squash, etc….. and not just green veggies. BTW: The darker the greens the better!

The dehydrator cooks food at low temperatures so the enzymes of fruits and veggies are not compromised. So many times veggies are over cooked leaving no vital nutrients left. So basically the broccoli that you cooked for your son didn’t have any nutrients in it once you cooked them. At this point the only purpose to eat the broccoli is for the fiber. And stay away from milk (cheese you put on top of the broccoli), verry bad for ADHD!

I have made Charlie apple, sweet potatoes, zucchini, cucumber, and pineapple chips to take to school and munch on his way to his basketball games. This week I made him every flavor of fruit roll ups you can imagine. I haven’t tried to make the energy bars or boco burgers yet but I’m working on it.

These two machines are pricey but are the Cadillac of their breed and will last you a LIFE TIME. Look at this as an investment that will not only benefit your child but your entire family. Charlie told me the day after I got my Vitamix and Excalibur that he felt that theses were gifts for him. He loves to operate this machine and has made us ice cream everyday. He even makes it for his friends when they come over. He loves it!

Click on the links below.

Vitamix: http://www.vita-mix.com/ Check out all the videos for the Vitamix! This machine is a life savior for ADD/ADHD children and adult!

Excalibur: http://www.excaliburdehydrator.com/ If you desire healthy snacks than a dehydrator is the way to go! If you purchase this product, you should also get “Preserve it Naturally” Third Edition book, the Paraflex sheets (for the fruit roll ups), and the Pre-treatment (Sodium Bifsufite).

Enthusiastically yours,

Shirley Highers


When the grass looks greener on the other side of the fence, it may be that they are taking better care of it.